EVERYTHING IS NEW

The story of how our daughter, Cara Liana, came to us. 
For the backstory, read Tragic Joy.

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“It’s fun to be a zombie.” I texted my friend, Jonathan. “Sleep while you can,” he replies. “Get ready for sleepless nights.” And he’s right. Cry. Comfort. Nurse. Burp. Poop. Change diaper. Pee. Change diaper again. Nurse. Comfort. Sleep. I text Jonathan back, “Our little baby is teaching us all about the nocturnal lifestyle.” The last two weeks have been a whirlwind.

Two weeks? How did that time fly by so quickly anyway? It seems like Cara Liana was just born yesterday. And I know I will be saying the same thing in a few moments, when I’m dancing with her, cheek to cheek, I’m crying with joyful pain, smiling with sorrow and sweetness as I give her away on her wedding day.

Time is like that. “Slow days. Fast years.” That’s what my brother told me on the phone when he called me the other day in St. Luke’s Hospital. Treasure the moments, even if you feel like a zombie.

On December 22, Lorna could barely wait any longer. It was one day before her due date, but all the side effects of a post surgery pregnancy had accumulated to intolerable proportions. “Call Doctor Tan. I think we need to schedule a C-section.” I hated seeing my wife in pain—swollen legs, dizziness, carpal tunnel syndrome. I began to dial Doctor Tan’s number when from the bathroom Lorna said with a calm excitement, “David, my water just broke!”

Her labor seemed eternal. Eighteen hours overnight until one pm on December 23 when they wheeled her away to the delivery room and told me to get changed into my scrubs. But they would not let me inside the room for forty-five minutes. “We will call you when we are ready.”

I was frustrated. I knew she needed me. I squirmed in my aluminum chair, gazing anxiously down the long hallway toward the delivery room. Inside, the nurses were taking turned elbowing Cara downward. She was stuck. Three different nurses announced that the doctor may have to do a C-section. We can deal with that, I thought, but after eighteen hours of labor? It felt like there was a porcupine inside my belly.

Finally, Doctor Tan arrived. “Before I do a C-section, I’m going to try one last thing. I need to use forceps to pull the baby out.” I did not say anything as I followed him down the long hallway, my mind trying to reject ugly images of all the horrible possibilities.

When I walked into the delivery room, I was surprised by the mysterious placidity in Lorna’s deep, beautiful eyes. God was there in the midst of terror. I kissed her on the forehead. I tried not to cry. I have to be strong for her. I cried.

Push! Doctor Tan pulled with his fifteen inch forceps. Nothing. Push! Baby was stuck. Fifty more times, Push! It seemed like forever, when suddenly a bluish baby with elongated head emerged, upside down, quiet, much too blue, I thought, and why is she not crying yet? The doctors laid Cara on mommy’s breast, and finally the cry came. I remembered to breathe then, gasping for air at the same rapid pace as my infant miracle baby.

Lorna cried. Baby cried. I looked at Cara Liana and was surprised how much her tears looked like mine. After years of waiting and hoping and yelling at God and hoping some more and giving up and then hoping again, there she was, bloody and beautiful, our own baby girl! Our little family of three hugged and laughed tears together.

But Lorna’s long eighteen hour labor had taken a toll on both mommy and baby. The doctors were afraid that Lorna and Cara may have been exposed to infection during the labor process, so they were both given antibiotics. They monitored Cara for two days, hoping that her color would return to normal. Satisfied enough, they released us from the maternity ward on Christmas Day.

“What an incredible Christmas gift!” I said. Lorna agreed. “She’s our little stocking stuffer!”

We went home, only to rush her to the emergency room thirty minutes later as her temperature spiked and skyrocketed. Thirty minutes. It was a short lived Christmas jubilation.

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She was admitted to the neonatal intensive care unit. For one week we worried about our miracle baby as her tiny immune system struggled with the help of antibiotics to fight neonatal sepsis. I cried as I gazed through the glass as she slept with IV’s in her foot under the blue luminescent photo therapy lamp.

How could this have happened? After nine years of marriage, five failed intrauterine insemination procedures, Lorna’s stage four endometriosis, laparoscopy and hysteroscopy surgery, and one final successful IUI, there she was in critical condition. She laid there placid opposite the glass, then squirmed ever so slightly. A bitter tear streaked down my cheek, wet and salty. I was angry and confused. I was sad. I was mad at God, mad with an underlying hope and love.

But should it have been any different? Isn’t this the story of Lorna’s and my life? Doesn’t joy and victory always arise from tragedy to defeat all odds on such a regular basis that I should be used to this by now?

Her color slowly began to return. Her jaundice left. Her temperature stabilized. Daddy and mommy smiled with relief and an underlying current of fear that the infection would return.

From Christmas day till December 31st Cara was admitted at the hospital. She was released on New Year’s Eve so that we could wake up at home the next morning from a bad dream to everything new on New Year’s Day. Vitamin D poured through the morning sun rays, and fell on the face of our little baby girl. Her cheeks squinched, and her upper lip curled into a smile. Our nine day old baby looked at Lorna and I as if to say, “Don’t worry, mommy. Don’t cry, daddy. I’m here now. I’m yours.” But we cried anyway, cried with delight and sacred awe. We were stunned and spider-webbed in a moment of fragile bliss, fearful that it might pass too soon.

“Slow hours. Fast years.”

We laid her little body between us on the bed, kissed each other, and were silent. But it was a deafening silence, one in which our heartbeats thumped out of our chest to the rhythm of an ethereal symphony.

January 1, 2013, the day everything became new.

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ARE GOD’S GOALS REALLY GREATER THAN MY OWN?

After church planting among unreached people groups in to China’s Southwest interior for nearly 15 years, people often come to me for missions advice by asking, “How can I tell if God is calling me to be a missionary?”

First I’d like to echo Charles Spurgeon’s proposal:

“If God calls you to be a missionary, don’t stoop to be a king.”

When I was planning to move to China in 1998, I did not hear the audible voice of God say, “David, pack your bags. You’re going to China!” I didn’t need the perfect sign. I did not set out a fleece. I did not randomly flip open my Bible, praying that the perfect scripture would magically direct me overseas.

My reasons were simple enough. Jesus had already told me to go 2,000 years ago.

“God, I’m moving to China. Is that cool?” I felt him smile with pleasure. It was God replying, “Why not?”

I confidently bought a one way ticket from Phoenix to the Far East, sensing providential purpose.

“It will not do to say that you have no special call to go to China. With these facts before you and with the command of the Lord Jesus to go and preach the gospel to every creature, you need rather to ascertain whether you have a special call to stay at home.” 
~James Hudson Taylor

Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desire of your heart.”

I always come back to that one. I understand it saying this: when I am delighting myself in God, his dreams automatically become my own.

There is no chasm between my wishes and God’s dream.
The things that ignite God’s heart, light a flame in my own.

Still, for many years in China, my artistic skills were put on the back burner, “because,” I told myself, “I’m a missionary. People are more important than projects.”

Which is 100% true.

But God gifted me in ways that only I can express certain aspects of his glory, and I need to make sure that the talents he gave me are being put to use.

Literature.
Design.
Media.
Film.
Art.

My personal passions sat in the background for way too long. Looking back, it kinda bums me out.

When can we get to the place where we live as if God’s goals and our own become one and the same?

A perfect example of someone embracing their passion, and using it missionally is a friend of mine named Juliann. She started a company called Jumay Designs that has been helping missionaries with design and visual presentations for years. She has come to understand that she is doing what she was made for by helping empower other missionaries.

I think that’s cool.

Maybe it’s time you stopped beating yourself up for doing what you’re passionate about, and simply focus your energy on using your God-given abilities for kingdom purposes.

Now, for a guy who is always talking about the 10/40 Window and reaching unreached people groups, this next statement may come as a surprise for you. But here goes.

Living missional has little to do with location. You can be an agent of change right where you’re at with the tools God equipped you with.

“I can’t wait to get back in the action,” my wife, Lorna, tells me. “I miss the adventure of traveling to China’s unreached tribal villages.” 

But darling, you are smack dab in the middle of God’s adventure for us.

You’re growing a baby. (She’s 5 months pregnant.)
You’re inspiring others to become missionaries.
You’re living with God’s intentions for you always at the forefront of your mind.

After nearly 15 years on the mission field in China, we now live in Manila, a country saturated with Christian exposure. But now more than ever I feel that I am multiplying myself as a missionary by empowering others to reach the unreached in the 10/40 Window via artistic and multimedia skills that God has placed within me.

Delight yourself in the Lord today. His goals will be etched upon your heart, and you’ll be confident with every step you take to speed the kingdom return through your unique gifts and talents.